WHAT DOES THE BIBLE TEACH?
Biblical Parenting

As a parent, you have been entrusted by God with the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being of a child. Although there are many ideas and philosophies for how to raise children in our world, there is only one source of ultimate truth—the Word of God. God's Word is not only our best source for parental wisdom, but also our final authority for everyday practice. Therefore let us study, believe, and obey what God has said in His Word about parenting, and we will find help and encouragement as we rejoice in raising up children for the glory of God!

 

The Blessing of Children

Psalm 127:3-5 - Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

Psalm 128:1-4 - Blessed is everyone who fears the LORD, who walks in his ways! You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands; you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Behold, thus shall the man be blessed who fears the LORD.

The Value of Children

Matthew 18:5-6 - "Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea."

Matthew 18:10 - "See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven."

Luke 18:15-17 - Now they were bringing even infants to him that he might touch them. And when the disciples saw it, they rebuked them. But Jesus called them to him, saying, "Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God. Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it."

The Joy of Godly Children

Proverbs 15:20 - A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish man despises his mother.

Proverbs 23:15-16 - My son, if your heart is wise, my heart too will be glad. My inmost being will exult when your lips speak what is right.

Proverbs 23:24-25 - The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him. Let your father and mother be glad; let her who bore you rejoice.

Proverbs 29:3 - He who loves wisdom makes his father glad, but a companion of prostitutes squanders his wealth.

Proverbs 29:17 - Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.

The Grief of Foolish Children

Proverbs 10:1 - A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.

Proverbs 17:21 - He who sires a fool gets himself sorrow, and the father of a fool has no joy.

Proverbs 17:25 - A foolish son is a grief to his father and bitterness to her who bore him.

Proverbs 19:13 - A foolish son is ruin to his father, and a wife's quarreling is a continual dripping of rain.

Proverbs 28:7 - The one who keeps the law is a son with understanding, but a companion of gluttons shames his father.

Discipline Is Commanded

Proverbs 19:18 - Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.

Proverbs 29:17 - Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.

Discipline Is Love

Proverbs 3:11-12 - My son, do not despise the LORD's discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the LORD reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.

Hebrews 12:5-6 - And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? "My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives."

Revelation 3:19 - Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline, so be zealous and repent.

Physical Discipline Is Biblical

Proverbs 13:24 - Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

Proverbs 20:30 - Blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts.

Proverbs 22:15 - Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13-14 - Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.

Proverbs 29:15 - The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

Discipline Teaches

Proverbs 29:15 - The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

Proverbs 29:19 - By mere words a servant is not disciplined, for though he understands, he will not respond.

Discipline Sanctifies

Proverbs 20:30 - Blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts.

Proverbs 22:15 - Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.

Hebrews 12:11 - For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

Discipline Consistently

Proverbs 13:24 - Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

Proverbs 23:13-14 - Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.

Discipline Promptly

Ecclesiastes 8:11 - Because the sentence against an evil deed is not executed speedily, the heart of the children of man is fully set to do evil.

Biblical Expectations of Children

Exodus 21:15-17 - "Whoever strikes his father or his mother shall be put to death. Whoever steals a man and sells him, and anyone found in possession of him, shall be put to death. Whoever curses his father or his mother shall be put to death."

Leviticus 19:3 - Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father, and you shall keep my Sabbaths: I am the LORD your God.

Deuteronomy 21:18-21 - "If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, and they shall say to the elders of his city, 'This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.' Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear."

Proverbs 20:11 - Even a child makes himself known by his acts, by whether his conduct is pure and upright.

Proverbs 30:17 - The eye that mocks a father and scorns to obey a mother will be picked out by the ravens of the valley and eaten by the vultures.

Ephesians 6:1-3 - Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother" (this is the first commandment with a promise), "that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land."

Colossians 3:20 - Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

Influences in Your Child's Life

Proverbs 13:20 - Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.

1 Corinthians 15:33 - Do not be deceived: "Bad company ruins good morals."

2 Corinthians 6:14-15 - Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?

 

The Centrality of Scripture

Deuteronomy 6:6-9 - "And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates."

Deuteronomy 11:18-20 - "You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates."

2 Timothy 3:14-15 - But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.

2 Timothy 3:16-17 - All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.

Tell the Next Generation

Deuteronomy 4:9-10 - "Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children's children—how on the day that you stood before the LORD your God at Horeb, the LORD said to me, 'Gather the people to me, that I may let them hear my words, so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children so.'"

Psalm 78:2-8 - I will open my mouth in a parable; I will utter dark sayings from of old, things that we have heard and known, that our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the LORD, and his might, and the wonders that he has done. He established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers to teach to their children, that the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn, and arise and tell them to their children, so that they should set their hope in God and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments; and that they should not be like their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation, a generation whose heart was not steadfast, whose spirit was not faithful to God.

The Father's Responsibility

Ephesians 6:4 - Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

The Father As Head

Ephesians 5:23 - The husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

The Father As Commander

Genesis 18:19 - "I have chosen [Abraham], that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing righteousness and justice, so that the LORD may bring to Abraham what he has promised him."

1 Thessalonians 2:11-12 - For you know how, like a father with his children, we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you to walk in a manner worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory.

The Father As Family Manager

1 Timothy 3:4 - [An overseer] must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church?

1 Timothy 3:12 - Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.

The Father As Teacher

Proverbs 4:1-4 - Hear, O sons, a father's instruction, and be attentive, that you may gain insight, for I give you good precepts; do not forsake my teaching. When I was a son with my father, tender, the only one in the sight of my mother, he taught me and said to me, "Let your heart hold fast my words; keep my commandments, and live."

Proverbs 4:10-11 - Hear, my son, and accept my words, that the years of your life may be many. I have taught you the way of wisdom; I have led you in the paths of uprightness.

Proverbs 7:1-3 - My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you; keep my commandments and live; keep my teaching as the apple of your eye; bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart.

The Father As Primary Discipliner

1 Samuel 3:13 - And I declare to [Eli] that I am about to punish his house forever, for the iniquity that he knew, because his sons were blaspheming God, and he did not restrain them.

1 Timothy 3:4 - [An overseer] must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church?

Titus 1:5-6 - This is why I left you in Crete, so that you might put what remained into order, and appoint elders in every town as I directed you—if anyone is above reproach, the husband of one wife, and his children are believers and not open to the charge of debauchery or insubordination.

Hebrews 12:7-9 - For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them.

The Father's Compassion

Psalm 103:13 - As a father shows compassion to his children, so the LORD shows compassion to those who fear him.

Colossians 3:21 - Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

The Mother As Lover

Titus 2:3-5 - [Older women] are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

1 Thessalonians 2:7 - But we were gentle among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children.

The Mother As Home Manager

Proverbs 14:1 - The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.

Proverbs 31:27 - She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

1 Timothy 5:14 - So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.

The Mother As Co-Teacher

Proverbs 6:20-23 - My son, keep your father's commandment, and forsake not your mother's teaching. Bind them on your heart always; tie them around your neck. When you walk, they will lead you; when you lie down, they will watch over you; and when you awake, they will talk with you. For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching a light, and the reproofs of discipline are the way of life.

The Mother As Co-Discipliner

Proverbs 29:15 - The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

A Promise for Parents

Proverbs 22:6 - Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.